Five Things My Dad Gave Me

April 8, 2014 — 16 Comments

This week my wife and youngest son visited my dad who is suffering from cancer.  Because of the nature and stage of his disease we know that his time is limited.  These moments we spend make me think of the things he has given me throughout his life.

Gifts From A Father

Gifts From A Father

I am grateful for these things, things you look for a dad to give.

He gave me…

1. The confidence that I could achieve.  Like my mother, my father always expressed belief that I could achieve whatever I had aspiration to pursue.  He believed I could do great things and affirmed me along the way.

2. The support I needed in beginning my journey in life.  It was true that my dad was a workaholic.  That is one trait I adopted as well.  It doesn’t always work for you (certainly hasn’t always worked for me).  It is true that dad’s workaholic tendency caused me some loss.  But there is a flip side to this that also shouldn’t be ignored.

He provided.  He worked hard, but he made a good living for me when I was young.  We had a nice safe home, never lacked a meal, had the things we needed, and a few special extras.  He supported me as best as he was able when I went through college.  He helped me get a good start.

Sometimes dads can get a bad rap for over working and neglecting the family.  And to be sure, that can be a real issue.  You need to be with your family and kids.  But in emphasizing this point, let’s not bash the dad that is earning the bucks to better his family and children’s future.

3. Approval along the way.  I guess I have always hungered for his approval.  A lot of people hunger for such fatherly approval and don’t receive it.  I did receive it and I am thankful.  Throughout my childhood, and now for nearly 30 years of adulthood, he has listened to me and expressed his pride whenever I would call him up and tell of my latest achievements.  I have received my father’s approval and I am unmistakably grateful.

4. A clear sense when he expected me to be a man.  I’ll never forget it.  I was in my sophomore year of college, engaged to my wife, eager to get married and be an adult.  He told me that he was committed to help me financially, as best he could.  He said he would give me support until I graduated from college or I got married, whichever came first.  Then he said I must finish college in four years.  He made it crystal clear that by the age of 22, or earlier if I chose to get married before, he considered me a man.  And being a man he expected me to support myself.  That clarity gave me a deep sense of personal responsibility.  I knew when I was expected to be my own man and stand on my own feet.  Many parents today do a poor job of setting up this expectation of responsibility and their children fail to know when they are adults.  I didn’t have that confusion because my dad clearly told me when I must be a man.

5. An example of how to face death with courage.  With his cancer, my dad is not expected to have much time.  I have watched him these last two years physically suffer horrific pain.  But at the same time I have watched him live life with gratitude and grace.  He has set a standard for me.  If I someday can see my death approaching, I will have my dad’s example in the front of my mind.  I will want to have his same positive outlook and courage.

Don’t get me wrong.  My dad isn’t perfect.  I guess I could even make a list of things that have disappointed me over the years.  But I don’t care about any of that.  I see what he gave me and I am grateful.  Absolutely grateful.

Question:  Is there something that someone you love has given to you for which you are grateful?  You can leave a comment by clicking here.

Greg Faulls


16 responses to Five Things My Dad Gave Me

  1. An exceptionally honoring post today Greg, respectful, honest and honoring…I am certain he is proud of you again today.

  2. My Dad passed away at age 57 way to young. It has been 19 years at first i was happy his suffering had ended and comforted he was with our heavenly Father. But as the years pass i miss him more. He never judged anyone . H e could discipline you with a glance of his clear blue eyes. I knew he always was there to support me to share his wisdom and encouragement . I even feel sad at what a wonderful person his grandchildren and great grand children will never know. To have a parent who’s love is unconditional no matter your mistakes is a feeling that gives you strength to do your best. He did not see me grown up really grown up or see me get baptized but I know he is watching over me and set my feet on the right path. His love is one of the reasons I know Jesus love is real.

  3. Glenita Roberts April 9, 2014 at 7:10 am

    Beautifully written and honoring post. Thank you for sharing! My grandmother gave me her name. More than that, she instilled in me some great qualities. She had a way of making most everyone feel loved and special. I seek to do the same.

  4. Thanks for sharing your heart and soul – Dad’s are such precious people and gifts from God’s grace – Lord bless you…

  5. I am uplifted to read your words. I love how you are honoring your father. Mine died when I was two years old, but I had the best mom in the world. Parents are special!

  6. Greg, you made me cry as I was reading your tribute to your Dad, Your Dad definitely gave you many wise words to live by. Greg, you are a fantastic person and I am the fortunate one to have known you so long ago. May God be by your family’s side as you go forward in happiness and sorrow.

  7. What a great post! Brings back fond memories of my dad. Aren’t we fortunate?

  8. I was so blessed to have had my grandmother in my life. She was my “rock” when things weren’t going good at home, which was most of the time. She always believed in me and was such a wonderful example to me. She was my best friend and it has been almost two years and I still miss her so much. I don’t know where I would be if I didn’t have her presence in my life. I thank you God.

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